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Internal Family Systems (IFS)
I first came across IFS back in 2019. After a long standing battle with binge eating, I was in desperate need of some support. Having attended numerous psychotherapy sessions and not seen any lasting change, I was sceptical whether anything could truly help me cultivate a better relationship with food and my self. One late night I ended up posting in a Facebook group that I needed help. I am infinitely grateful to Ruth Culver for answering my cry and exposing me to what would become the modality that healed my food addiction and helped me discover my inner healer. It took me some years to get onto the most sought after training that is IFS, but eventually I managed to win the lottery (literally) and as of 2025 I am officially trained to offer this transformative healing modality to others.
Illustration - Tara Rai, 2018
The basis of the IFS is that human beings are naturally made up of ‘Parts’ which are also known as 'subpersonalities' and this is something we all have in common.
For instance, if you were deciding whether to go out to a party, you might have a part that says 'yes, let's go and have fun' and another that says 'no, stay inside and rest.' This phenomenon of multiplicity of the mind is normal and can be embraced as something that makes us remarkable human beings. In IFS, we recognise that all parts have good intentions, even if their external behaviours seem less than favourable such as addictive patterns or self criticism to name but a few parts that can be painful to exist alongside. By learning how these parts have acquired their various roles and allowing them to trust your 'Self' through connection, curiosity and releasing of burdens from the past, parts can begin to work together as a harmonious orchestra instead of in opposition to each other.
In IFS we work under the premise that everyone also has a ‘Self’ that is akin to an inner healer that can support parts to return to their natural states of being before life events and traumas shaped them into their extreme roles.
The Self is a place that holds what is known as 'The 8 'C's':
Calm
Curiosity
Compassion
Confidence
Courage
Clarity
Connectedness
Creativity
Self is the natural conductor of the whole system including the body and psyche, so when we’re in ‘Self-leadership’, our parts are able to be in relationship with each other. This is the essence of what is cultivated in IFS therapy sessions: the deepening of a client's connection to Self and their parts to become more and more Self-led. This emphasis is different to traditional psychotherapeutic models where the relationship between therapist and client is the key to healing. This approach of IFS is a different orientation whereby the therapist a guide supporting inner connection to Self and parts.
Want to know more?
I highly recommend this brilliant podcast episode with Richard Schwartz, creator of IFS on the Huberman Lab doing a live demo. There are also more videos on Youtube to explore if you are interested in uncovering more of what IFS is about including interviews with Aubrey Marcus, Gabor Maté and Alanis Morisette to name but a few.
The official IFS website has free resources on it too: www.ifs-institute.com
Internal Family Systems (IFS) Sessions with me

Please note that I offer sessions online via Zoom. Before beginning IFS sessions with clients, I offer a free 30 minute conversation to share more about the process, answer your queries and allow you to discover whether we would be a good fit working together.
Pricing
60 minute session: £60
3 session bundle: £165
How can IFS help you?
The sad reality is that many of us suffer wounds at the hands of our caregivers during the time we are most vulnerable and impressionable to the external world. Whether you have a cognitive recollection of your past or not, attachment injuries leave our inner worlds feeling fraught and disconcerting to live with. As Richard Schwartz discovered in his client work as a family therapist, we all internalise our outer family as voices of self criticism, shame and pain that become our Internal Family Systems. IFS is a simple yet powerful healing tool that restores our internal connection through being in relationship with a practitioner who is rooted in their own Self, and knows how to guide others back to their own Self that knows how heal the parts that have been exiled and carrying burdens for too long.
“Another kind of happiness exists that you can feel steadily whether you are in a relationship or not. It comes from the sense of connectedness that happens when all your parts love one another and trust and feel accepted by your Self.”
Richard Schwartz, You Are the One You've Been Waiting For
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